Tuesday, April 19, 2005

My New Couple

The couple I'm helping this surrogacy live in Delaware - their names are Taryn and JD. They are childless and endured tremendous obstacles in trying to achieve their family...their most recent loss was that of their daughter (from a once twin pregnancy) in February of this year.

They have been through 3 IVF procedures and countless other attempts to become pregnant, but my IM's uterus is unable to sustain these precious lives and I've stepped in now to try to help them.

They have a wonderful supportive family and very much remind me of many of the qualities my former couple and their family possess. I'm pleased to know that the extended family is very optimistic and hopeful for Taryn and JD in this venture.

I met my couple in April 2005 through TASC (www.surrogacy.com) and began chatting very quickly after doing so. Both of us had only been searching for a short time and felt although hundreds of miles away from one another that we'd make a terrific team. Soon we grew to be very close friends and talk several times a day as we gear up for our transfer.

I'd already completed my psychological testing (just had to have my home study updated by phone interview) & medical testing (saline ultrasound of my uterus, STD testing of my husband and I, and pap was up-to-date). Their RE is currently reviewing my records and David Cole in TX is drafting our contracts, to be ready sometime (we hope) this week. Attorneys have been contacted across the board and it is looking VERY favorable for a Pre-Birth Order (PBO) to take place here in OK. I've found out a new OK Supreme Court ruling has set a precedent for us Okies (I have yet to research it further...but, looks good!) We are ready to go with a tentative transfer date as soon as my IPs clinic in DE prepares a calendar protocol for us...we are projecting a June 2005 cycle.

Why Another?

I'm asked often, "Why did you decide to become a surrogate again for another couple?" My answer is simply, "Because I'm able and willing to help create another family, so why not?" Plus, my desire to be a part of another miraculous birth through surrogacy is just to addictive a feeling to deny.

Surrogacy is a very fulfilling endeavor and I'm very excited to take this step of helping yet another couple create life. Noel and I are finished having children of our own and I'm healthy, conceive remarkably easy, and I have the desire to continue giving back to society in this way.

My former IPs - Stacey and Anthony, gave me their blessing after I had previously helped to match them with another surrogate - I was unable to cycle for them again when they were trying with their last frozen embryos. I was breastfeeding and not quite ready to move forward with a cycle on their time frame. Their final two attempts failed, so they say they are now done TTC anymore children. Already they are blessed with the three they have via surrogacy (with my help). I'm eager to share with them in my news of this surrogacy and they continue to keep in touch.

My family is remarkable and couldn't be more supportive of my efforts to be a surrogate again. Of course, my twin sister - Angie, is also an experienced surrogate (following in my footsteps) and currently trying to help her former IPs with a sibling for her surro daughter. My sister has moved back to Oklahoma from Wisconsin and very much involved in helping me fulfill this next surrogacy journey (as is my younger sister, Jenny, and the rest of my extended family). I'm excited to be able to share with them in the joys and possible disappointments that surrogacy can bring.

I've decided to document what I can of this surrogacy, in case it is my last. I'm extremely blessed to have this opportunity to help another couple and even more so to have the ability to make more memories as a surrogate.